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Why We Stay in a Job We Hate... and What to Do Next

Updated: Mar 18

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a job you despise, yearning for change but unsure of how to proceed? If you're nodding in agreement, you're not alone. Many individuals face this dilemma, where the job they're in no longer aligns with their true selves, leaving them feeling like they're living someone else's life.

In my Career Transition work with clients, I've come to understand this as a 'workquake' – a moment when the once-stable ground beneath your career starts to tremble and fall away, leaving you disoriented and ill-prepared for the shift. A 'Workquake' is not just about changing jobs or careers; it's profound and powerful because it's driven by a desire to fulfil your potential and become a more authentic version of yourself at work.

Recognising a career transition isn't just about changing your job is important; it involves a radical redefinition of your self-perception, relationships, social standing, and your entire identity. It's about who you are, how you perceive the world, and how the world perceives you.


Fear often underpins the reasons we stay in jobs we hate. Fear of change, fear of uncertainty, fear of failure, and fear of judgment can be overwhelming, keeping us stagnant which has negative impacts on our well-being, relationships, and self worth.

The Comfort Zone

The comfort zone can be another powerful force holding us back. We often find ourselves in this zone because we fear the effort required to take the first step toward change. However, pursuing growth outside of this zone can lead to personal transformation.

Lack of Clarity

A lack of clarity about what you truly want in your career can be paralysing. Without a clear vision, it's challenging to take action. Start by identifying your talents as a first step to gain clarity, confidence and a deep understanding of the value you bring.

Imposter Syndrome

Self-doubt and imposter syndrome can also be significant barriers. Negative self-talk and the belief that you need extensive qualifications for a new job or career can hold you back. Seeking support from a coach or mentor can be transformative in moving through these limiting beliefs.

Going it Alone

Navigating this journey without support can be slow and agonising. Engaging with a coach or mentor can help you overcome mental barriers, provide a roadmap for your transition, and ensure you have the right support throughout the journey.

Remember, you're not alone in your Career Transition journey.

Seek support from an experienced career transition coach (Hello there!!), or supportive communities (I have created my private Pursuing Brilliance group for this purpose - come and join us over there) to gain guidance, motivation, and accountability. Learning from others' success stories can provide inspiration and hope during your transition.

To kickstart your journey towards a more fulfilling career, here are some actionable steps:

  1. Complete my Two Free Coaching sessions to define your Desired Feelings within my private Pursuing Brilliance group (It was the first step I took to kick start my Career Transition in 2015!). It's the perfect priming to get you warmed-up. Click here and ask to join my supportive Pursuing Brilliance Community for those in a Workquake.

  2. Book a free career strategy call with me to explore your current challenges and future aspirations. I'd love to hear about what it is you are working through right now.

Start sharing your dreams and aspirations for your career transition with those who support you, talking about it is a great start.

Embrace the revolutionary side of change, and take that first step towards a brighter, more fulfilling future.

You've got this! Binny


Binny Langler champions the radical idea that you can design the work life you want.

By coaching you on how to write the next chapter of your work story with YOU as the hero, spotlighting your unique superpowers.

As the Director of The Inkling Effect, Binny has over 20 years of experience in helping professionals discover and apply their unique strengths to create more fulfilling and meaningful work.

A certified Executive & Gallup Global Strengths Coach, with a Masters of Entrepreneurship & Innovation.

Her mission is to be a change catalyst for curious professionals who are seeking a fresh start in their career journey. She uses a fast-track process that reveals your superpowers to enable you to script the next chapter of your work story with intention and purpose. Binny specialises in challenging the status quo and empowering her clients to embrace their potential and pursue brilliance, whether that be in their current role, or transitioning to something entirely different.

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