The Identity Crisis: Who Are You Beyond Your Job Title?

You've built a successful career over 10, 15, maybe 20 years. You've climbed the ladder, earned respect, built a reputation.

People know you as "the lawyer," "the senior specialist," "the group manager." Your LinkedIn profile is impressive, your business cards are crisp, and your elevator pitch is polished. Then something happens.

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Maybe it's a redundancy—that cold, corporate email that lands in your inbox at 9 AM on a Tuesday. Or maybe it's stepping away from your career to start a family. Or perhaps it's that growing inkling, that persistent voice whispering that this isn't fulfilling you anymore, and you finally decide to listen.

Suddenly, you're facing a terrifying question: "Who am I without my job title?"

The Identity Trap That Successful People Fall Into

Here's what no one talks about in business school or leadership programs: the more successful you become in your career, the more dangerous it becomes to your sense of self. Success creates what I call "the identity trap."

It starts innocently enough. You work hard, you excel, you get promoted. People start recognising you for your expertise. You become known as someone who "gets things done" or "has all the answers." Your reputation grows, your network expands, and slowly but surely, the boundaries between you and your job begin to blur.

Before you know it, you're:

• Thinking about work during dinner

• Checking emails on weekends

• Struggling to have conversations that aren't related to your industry

• Defining yourself entirely through your job title and achievements

Are You Caught in the Identity Trap?

Ask yourself these revealing questions:

1. How much do you think about your job outside of office hours?

2. Can you participate in conversations that have nothing to do with your work?

3. When you describe yourself, how much is tied to your job title or company?

4. How would you feel if you could no longer continue in your profession?

If these questions made you uncomfortable, that's telling you something important.

When the Trap Becomes Most Apparent

The identity trap reveals itself most painfully during four critical moments:

1. Redundancy

The shock hits first. Even when you see the signs—the restructuring rumours, the "cost optimisation" meetings, the sudden budget cuts—nothing quite prepares you for that moment when you realise your role has been eliminated. Then comes the ego blow. This isn't just about losing income; it's about losing your sense of worth.

2. Stepping Away for Family

Particularly challenging for high-achieving professionals who've spent years building their reputation, only to face an impossible choice between career advancement and being present for their children. The networking events you can't attend, the late-night calls you have to skip, the travel opportunities you decline—each represents a piece of your professional identity slipping away.

3. Burnout

When you can't perform at your usual level, the person you thought you were starts to crumble.

4. Following Your Inkling

When you finally listen to that persistent voice telling you there's something more out there for you.

The Path to Rediscovering Your True Identity

Here's what I've learned from working with countless professionals facing these transitions: the emotional journey is remarkably similar across all scenarios. All involve a loss of professional identity, trigger deep questions about self-worth, and require rebuilding your sense of self from the ground up.

But here's the transformative truth: these transitions often become the catalyst for people to discover their authentic identity and create a more fulfilling life.

Your Innate Talents: The Key to Authentic Identity

The answer to rebuilding lies in something you've had all along but may have forgotten: your innate talents. These are the natural abilities you were born with, the patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that make you uniquely you.

Let me share my own example. When I was Head of Digital Product, I thought my value was in my technical knowledge, my industry experience, my network. But when I discovered my true talents, everything changed:

Individualization: I have an uncanny ability to see the unique talents and potential in others

Futuristic: I'm naturally visionary, easily turning aspirations into reality

Strategic: I can quickly see connections and determine the best path forward

These talents were operating in my corporate role, but they were constrained by my narrow job description. When I understood these as my core identity—not just skills I'd learned, but innate abilities I was born with—I realised I could take these talents anywhere.

A Client's Breakthrough Story

One of my recent clients, a senior finance director for 15 years, had her role eliminated during a merger. She came to our first session devastated, convinced her career was over at 45.

After working through her strengths assessment, she discovered her top talents:

Analytical: She could see patterns in data and solve complex problems

Relator: She built deep, authentic relationships based on trust

Responsibility: She took ownership and could be counted on to deliver

"I thought I was just a finance person," she told me. "But now I see that I'm a problem-solving, relationship-building, dependable person who backs all my decisions with data and evidence—who happened to work in finance. These talents could work in any industry, any role."

Six months later, she'd transitioned into a consulting role helping small businesses solve operational challenges. She's earning great money, working with clients she genuinely enjoys, and for the first time in years, she's excited about Monday mornings.

Your Value Isn't Your Job Title

This is the breakthrough moment I see time and time again. It's not just about finding a new job title—it's about finding yourself. Your value isn't tied to a title on your business card or an achievement on your CV. Your value is in the unique combination of talents that make you who you are.

When you understand this:

Redundancy stops being a crisis and becomes an opportunity

Career change stops being scary and becomes exciting

You're not walking away from everything you are—you're finally stepping into everything you could be

Moving Forward

If you're feeling disconnected from your work or facing one of these identity-challenging transitions, know that this discomfort is trying to tell you something important. It's time to rediscover who you are beyond your job title.

Your true identity isn't hiding behind years of career success. It's been with you all along, waiting for you to pay attention. Those innate talents you were born with? They're your superpowers, and they're ready to create something amazing.

Remember: you're not just what you do for work. You're so much more than that.

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I am a certified Executive, Gallup Global Strengths Coach & Career Change Coach - with a Masters of Entrepreneurship & Innovation.